Many people will take care of commitments to others and neglect their own (not saying that you should follow through with your commitments). We see it all the time and the person we are looking at just might be looking back at us in the mirror. The mom who uses all her energy to care for her children and husband but has nothing left for herself. The man working crazy hours when he’d rather be home bonding with his children or working on opening his own business. We can kill ourselves to be there for other people and employers; can we put this much effort and commitment to ourselves.
You may have wanted to write a book, take a vacation, go to the spa, start a business but time and lack of energy has talked you out of it.
When we want or need something, we have to take full responsibility of making it happen, no one else will.
Yesterday after church I decided I to fast. I wasn’t going to watch TV,eat, listen to music, use the telephone or Internet. I needed some time to exist without noise, without any outside influence, spend some time with God. By the end of the night I turned on the TV and ate some chicken salad and crackers. I completely broke my commitment to myself and more importantly to God. Well the cracker I was eating broke off one of my teeth. My tooth scratched my tongue all night and I can’t consume solid food for at least 30 hours, maybe longer. (I have a dentist appointment tomorrow) I’m sure this would have eventually happened, (Not saying this was a punishment or anything) but it certainly sucks that it happened now, like this. I’m going to take it as a lesson learned. I constantly make commitments to myself and God but I rarely keep them. From now on, I will follow through on these commitments the same way I would for a job or a friend.
When you compromise on your own commitments and goals, you’re compromising yourself.
I recently made a verbal agreement with a businessman, in which he volunteered to compensate me for a 2 hour drive I hadn’t planned on taking. After the trip was completed, he never mentioned anything about gas money. (Neither did I)
When you tell someone you’re going to do something, you should do it. The recipient should not have to ask you OR remind you. As the old saying goes, “you don’t have to twist someone’s arm to do something they say they want to do”.
This brings to my attention how important it is to mean what you say, and say what you mean. Being a person who was once a prisoner of my own words, I would often not live by that principal. Whether that meant not calling when you said that you would or simply not telling someone they offended you, when they did. I was most afraid of offending someone (Even though they obviously didn’t care for my feelings)
If people can’t trust your word then they can’t trust you. You are undependable. Whether it’s accurate or not, your reputation often times precedes you. You don’t want to be known as a liar or an untrustworthy person.
I’m sure, at some point in life, we all have been guilty of not taking ourselves seriously. (If you don’t take yourself and your words seriously no one else will) I pledge to put thought into all of my verbal commitment and things I say in general. If I’m not going to call, I’ll say just that. (Hopefully they’ll be a nice way to say it) If I’m feeling something that needs to be shared, I’ll share it. If someone asks my opinion, they’ll get my honest opinion. (In a polite manner of course ) And because I’m not perfect and for some reason I can’t follow through, I’ll be courteous enough to give the heads up.
(But seriously I don’t like it when people commit to something they have absolutely no intention of doing)
What are your thoughts?
On my journey to physical health and fitness I have started jogging every morning at my alumni high school track. For 30 minutes I exercise alone, then at 9:00 I meet a childhood best friend for an hour of walking and talking. (Great bonding time)
This morning I jogged two laps and a 100 continuously. (900 m) This may not seem like much but the previous day I jogged 800 m (two laps) without stopping. I increased my nonstop distance by 100 m! I am truly excited. When I was 165 pounds I could easily jog a mile, now at almost 200 pounds it proves to be much more of a challenge.
I’m working towards an initial goal of a 10 minute mile. That’s pretty slow, I know but I would be truly proud of myself when I’m able to do it consistently. Not that I’m not happy or proud of myself now, because I am. My body feels great! I love the soreness and tightening of my legs back and arms (due to push-ups). It makes me feel GOOD, like I’m accomplishing something plus I’m totally relaxed the remainder of the day.
One thing I’m quickly internalizing is our biggest competitors is truly ourselves. Every day you must attempt to be the best you, better than you were the day before. There’s no need to compete with the guy next to you running a 6min mile. Do the best YOU possibly can, and that’s all you can ask of yourself.
Have a great, BLESSED and productive day!
I’ll keep you updated on my physical improvements.
“For what you do to others, you do to yourself” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Job 4:8 “As I have seen, those who plow iniquity and sow trouble reap the same”
Sometimes in life we are met with obstacles and adversity; we have to change our perceptions. Look at obstacles as OPPORTUNITIES to excel and reach a higher level, in life and spirituality. Exude positive, loving energy and watch it return x10!
“Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another” ~ Albert Einstein
Change the energy of doubt, hate, lack into assurance/confidence, love and abundance.
I have known I’ve wanted to be an entertainer since before I could talk. Singing and dancing for my mom and all her friends had to have gotten redundant and maybe even annoying at some point. I even auditioned for my first play at age four. But being born and raised in the wonderful delta of the great state if Mississippi did nothing to help my chances of entering the performing arts industry.
Now at age 23 I’m ready to launch my career as an actress, writer, producer and director. I don’t have much experience or connections but I have a whole lot of passion. Marry passion with hard work and persistent dedication and I’m sure to get somewhere, right? I absolutely love the arts.(visual, performance, audio EVERYTHING) I want a hand in every aspect of the arts; live/recorded theatre, film, music, spoken word, any and everything I can do, I will do it. Even things I can’t.(but to the best of my ability of course) behind the scenes, in the office and center stage.
I’m going to be trying new things and creating my own opportunities. Join me in this exciting journey. Share some laughs, see and enjoy overwhelming heights and experience ground breaking lows; maybe we’ll even learn something together. 😉 It is and will always be the process that matters most, not the destination.